To the tribe…less
To the mom who is “tribe” less:
I’ve been thinking about you lately. You’ve been heavy on my heart for a few reasons, but today I just thought you might need to hear this. So here we go....
it’s that time of year when the girls get together and all head out on their yearly girls trip. You know the one .... just a few days... in very cute matching shirts with their matching cups. They look sooo cute, and the photos, I know you’ve scrolled passed them on Facebook and Instagram and thought to yourself “gosh I wish I was on a trip like that”. They sure do look like they are having fun, huh? The hotels look like a giant slumber party, the lake and their super cute floaties look like the most relaxing thing ever,the pools like the water has never be bluer, the dinners divine, and the company, well it can’t be beat.
You see them throwing each other showers, having bbq’s with their husbands, play dates, having moms nights out, and by golly, they never miss a birthday. Their friendship looks cozy, but meaningful and maybe even low maintenance. And I know you’re constantly thinking, man... can’t they just let one more in?
I’ve also been thinking about you because mommin’ ain’t no joke in the summer. Whether you work, or stay at home, it’s like their little brains go into overdrive and they turn into little insane Tasmanian devils who drank a liter of sugar at 6AM. You are tired. So so so so so damn tired. And there you are again, scrolling through Instagram and you see them, dropping off gift bags, getting each other emergency coffee, ice cream, simply lifting each other up. I’m sure they have fun group texts, and I’d venture to guess they just show up at one another’s homes and it’s just no big deal. Invite each other for dinner or a movie. Just a couple of hours, but they have the best time.
I feel for you, because I am you. I’m not saying we don’t have friends. We do. I have lots of them whom I love dearly (this isn’t meant to be offensive), but most of mine are individuals who run in different crowds (who have some pretty great tribes), which we both know is different. We aren’t lonely cat ladies. Just don’t have a group. The “tribe” we keep reading about that we are suppose to go out and find (feels like a lot of pressure doesn’t it) ... and we keep seeing them all over Facebook, the mom sisterhood that seems to exist for others but not for us. I know you try, because so do I, but for some reason it seems like the groups are all full, or maybe we got there 2 friends too late. Who knows, but I get the feeling.
So I wanted to tell you, it’s cool. I know it seems lonely sometimes, or like you’re constantly on the outside. But the group just hasn’t fit yet, it will, so don’t stop trying. And I want to remind you... that doesn’t mean you’re alone. There are others just like you, waiting for the right adult friendships to come along, and the right group to fit into. I believe it’s out there, I really really really do.
So while you wait, just know, it’s ok to give that post of theirs a like, and want to belong to their crew- it really does look so fabulous. And until you find yours, just know, I’m thinking of you. And you can be a part of my group any time❤️❤️
With a lot of love and affection.
- Another tribeless mom